Check Your Personal Confidence Levels

What is self esteem?

Self-esteem is about growing the confidence to see your own worth, and it is something you can boost over time. It is about having a good opinion of yourself as someone who has strengths and can grow as a person, even though we all know we are not perfect.

Self esteem can help you get the jobs you want. It can help you get more out of life, and feel better about who you are. To boost your confidence levels, you need to work on your self-esteem levels, too. That’s because personal confidence is a big part of self-esteem.

Checking your personal confidence levels

• A person with high self esteem is likely to view themselves as capable, good at learning new things, and deserving of love and respect.
• A person with low self esteem might think of themselves as stupid, not good enough, or unloveable.

Which one sounds more like you right now?

Self esteem is about seeing the good things in yourself, not just focusing on things you think you need to improve.

Can you improve your personal confidence? Yes.

It’s not like you either have personal confidence or don’t. Your sense of self-worth can go up and down in life. Things like struggling to find a job or failing an exam can trigger low self esteem. You can also have high self esteem in one area, and low self esteem in another.

When you get to understand your level of personal confidence, you can explore areas where you want to improve. You don’t have to be the star of the show to be confident. You just have to allow yourself to learn from mistakes, and appreciate learning new things – and give yourself credit where it’s due. When it comes to personal confidence, you can do you.

Check Your Confidence: How Do You Handle Compliments And Criticism?

Some people with low self esteem struggle to handle compliments. If someone says something nice to you, how do you react? If you get embarrassed and want to brush it off, or feel like the person is wrong about you, that’s a warning sign.

Some people with low self esteem also struggle to handle criticism, even if it’s really well-meant or useful. If being told you made a mistake or you could improve ruins your whole day or makes your feel very low, that’s a sign you might have low self esteem.

A person with strong self esteem is able to accept compliments with grace and a sincere “thank you”. They can take constructive criticism as a gift and use it to improve.

Check Your Confidence: Do You Often Compare Yourself To Others?

How do you feel when something good happens to someone you know? Happy for them? Or jealous, or bad about yourself?

A person with strong self esteem can enjoy someone else’s success without comparing and feeling bad about themselves. Do you often compare yourself unfavourably to others? If you find yourself thinking about how everyone else is more clever, talented, lucky or attractive than you, you will feel better if you work on your self esteem!

Do you often feel an urge to put other people down in order to make yourself look or feel better by comparison? This could be your way of trying to protect yourself and protect your low self esteem. You don’t need to do that to feel better about yourself.

When you have healthy self esteem, you can appreciate all the things that are great about the other people around you. That’s because you can appreciate all the things that are great about you.

Check Your Confidence: Do You Trust Your Judgement?

How do you feel about your ability to make good decisions? If you can make decisions calmly and confidently, your self esteem is likely to be healthy. If you find yourself second-guessing yourself or seeking advice from others for even basic decisions, maybe your self esteem needs a boost.

Are you shy to contribute your opinion in a work meeting or group project? Do you avoid raising your hand in class in case you get the answer wrong? Do you avoid making decisions and instead go along with what other people want? If any of these statements sound familiar, you might have a problem trusting your own judgement.

Check Your Confdience: Are You Happy In Your Own Company?

People are social beings. But it’s also important to be happy with yourself and happy in your own company.

People who fear being alone can have low self esteem. Do you think your worth is defined by the people around you – your partner, friends, family, or boss? Or do you know that you have real worth and value, outside of the people you spend time with? Does an evening at home alone fill you with horror, or are you happy having some time alone?

If you’re happy in your own company, that’s a sign of healthy self esteem. If you fear being alone, you might want to look into why that is, and see if you can feel better about being in your own company.